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One of the biggest things I have learned about being a leader is you WILL be criticized. Being criticized hurts but it is worth it! John Maxwell says, “When you get kicked in the rear, you know you are out front.”

Not everyone handles criticism the same. Some try to ignore it. Some try to defend themselves against it. Others, make witty and sarcastic remarks to put a critic in his place. The truth is, if you are a leader you WILL get criticized.

There are three things I have learned to use as a filter when being criticized:

1.) Who criticized me?– If it is coming from someone close to you or someone you admire or look up to then the criticism is worth looking into.

2.) How was the criticism given?- I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. You have to determine if the person was being judgmental or do they have real concern.

3.) Why was the criticism given?- Was it given out of personal hurt or for my benefit? When people are feeling hurt by you they will lash out and criticize you. Hurting people want to hurt other people.

Once I have used those filters during a moment of criticism I then work through what I was being criticized about. I try not to be defensive. I look for the grain of truth in the criticism. Then, I make changes if I need to.

I have learned that secure leaders never need to defend themselves. Even when the person who is criticizing is so far off from the truth. If you worry about what other people think about you it’s because you have more confidence in their opinion than you have in your own.

As I have learned this principle of “When you are getting kicked in the rear, you know you are out front” I think back to all the criticism I took early on as a leader. I use to respond to it with anger or sarcastic remarks. Now, I filter through the three things you read above. It is much easier to sleep at night when you filter through those principles.

When you are a leader you WILL be criticized! Know that it is worth it!

– Kyle

@KyleJackson1

I have 2 friends that I played college baseball with that are making their way through Minor League baseball on the way to the Bigs. I had the opportunity to talk with both of them on the phone recently as they were finishing up Spring Training in AZ. and was blown away by some of the answers they gave me to some questions I was strategically asking about baseball but listening to their answers with a Ministry mindset.

Lance Zawadski (Triple-A for the Kansas City Royals) played several games for the Padres last season before being traded is a switch hitting SS/2B that is a phenomenal defensive player and hits for power from both sides of the plate. (http://mlb.mlb.com/team/player.jsp?player_id=453368#sectionType=career&statType=1&season=&gameType=’R’)

Brad Coon (Triple-A for the Los Angelis Dodgers) is in his 6th year of Minor League ball. He was with the Angels for 4 years, Nationals for 1 and now will start his 6th season with the Dodgers. He is a speedy left-handed center fielder that hits lead-off and steals 30-40 bases a year. Brad hit a walk-off HR last year in Spring Training in AZ for the Angels. (http://losangeles.angels.mlb.com/team/player.jsp?player_id=488795#sectionType=career&statType=1&season=&gameType=’R’)

Questions I asked Lance and Brad:

1.) What is the biggest difference between Minor League Baseball and Major League Baseball?

Amazingly they gave the exact same answer: “The biggest difference is in Minor League Baseball you can get away with certain weaknesses, but in the Majors, every weakness you have will be EXPLOITED and it will be exploited quick. In Minor League baseball only a few teams know your weakness, in the Majors EVERYONE knows your weaknesses!”

As a leader in ministry, the larger your ministry gets the more your weaknesses are going to be EXPLOITED! You can get away with some things in the Minors that only a few people know about, but in the Majors your weakness WILL be known and they WILL be exploited quickly!

2.) What is the difference in preparing for a Double-A game and a Major League Game?

Again, they gave the same answer: “You can show up at the park 3 hours before a minor league game and stretch, Take BP, throw and be successful. In the Majors you have to prepare daily! You have to do your reasearch on everything and chances are you still want have a “great” game! You have to be so mentally tough or you will get run over!”

As a leader in ministry, the more influence you have the more ready you have to be to answer questions, take the heat, be challenged by others and more. You can’t just show up at the park and half way prepare, you have to be prepared daily.

3.) What has been the toughest challenge for you after moving up to the Big Leagues?

Lance: “Learning the day-to-day routine of being a Major League player. It’s so different being in the spotlight. Everything you do or say people are ready to pounce on you! You have to be mentally tough.”

Brad: “Thinking I have to change who I am as a player after one bad at bat or one bad game. I think I have to change everything about my stance and swing after one bad day. I am a singles hitter, that steals bases and plays good defence. That’s what got me here. I don’t have to be something I’m not!”

WOW…Let both of those answers sink in a little! In the ministry sometimes you feel like people are just waiting for you to do or say the “wrong” thing. Everyone has their opinion of what you should do or who you should be. Be who you are and do what got you to the place you are in. Don’t be afraid to change, but always revert back to who you are at a heart level. Know who you are and what you do well and stick with it!

4.) What is the biggest misconception about Major League players?

Lance: “That people think that just because we are Big League players we slack off. The biggest surprise to me was watching from the dugout some of the best players in the game consistently running on and off the field hard and running out ground balls hard. People see what they want on TV and assume what they want from a distance. It is not always true.”

Brad: “That we are all the same! Cocky, Above the law, non-appreciative guys. So untrue. There are unhappy people everywhere in life no matter what you do! That does not mean everyone you work with or everyone in you profession is the same. But people believe what they want and make their own opinions about you without even knowing you.”

The more influence you gain, the more scrutiny you will take! People will  make their own opinions about you when they have never met you. They will watch from a distance and try to tear you down.

What Can We Do: 1.) Get accountable about your weaknesses so they will not get Exploited. 2.) Prepare Daily. 3.) Know who you are at a heart level. 4.) Don’t worry about the misconceptions about who you are.

“Called” or “Anointed?”

Posted: February 9, 2011 by kylejackson10 in CHRISTIAN, Uncategorized, YOUNG ADULTS

Last night at Next Level Church Young Adults Group we talked through the difference of being “Called” & being “Anointed.”

CALLED——-> Gifts from God—–> Everyone has a Calling (Ephesians 4:1)

ANOINTED—-> Authority to function from God

We talked through Exodus 2:11-15 and how Moses rushed into his “Calling” from God and did not wait for God to “Anoint” him and send him out.

The 2 points we talked about through the story were:

1.) If you rush and do not wait on God’s timing your weaknesses will be found out.

2.) The time between the Calling and the Anointing is to work the arrogance out of us.

Gifting moves people…Anointing changes people!”

We talked about “Staying in the Process.” Embrace the Season you are in. Enjoy it!

There will be a 100 doors open during the waiting season, but NOT ALL OPEN DOORS ARE FROM GOD!

When the devil is telling you to quit the process the most, could be right before God Anoints you.”

We talked about working on ourselves during this Waiting Season. Earn God’s TRUST during the process. (LUKE 16:10)

What do we do?

1.) WRITE IT DOWN: (HABAKKUK 2:2) -Find something in your life that you know you need to work on and write it down.

-Get it out of the your heart (Darkness) and onto paper (Light).

God has to trust you with little before he can trust you with much.

2.) ASK ADVICE FROM PEOPLE WISER THAN YOU (PROVERBS 12:15) -It is hard to see what you are doing wrong in your life, it is much easier to see it in someone else’s life.

Set up a meeting with someone wiser than you that you trust and ask them questions on how to deal with what you wrote down.

3.) GET ALONE WITH GOD (1 PETER 5:7) -There is power in getting alone with God

-Present the problem in your life that you wrote down and ask God to help you start making the proper steps in the right direction.

We are all “Called” to something, ask God for the “Anointing” within your Calling. Life is to short not to do what you are gifted at!

Have a great week!

-Kyle


AUBURN- 22            OREGON- 19

This past weekend I was fortunate to go to Glendale, AZ for the 2010 National Championship Game! I have waited 28 years for Auburn to be in the National Championship game! It was an incredible experience! Auburn brought 50-70 thousand fans, who paid anywhere from $500.00-$4,000 for a ticket! And that is just to the game!!!

For the 4 days I was there I watched the culture of Auburn. I watched the current students, little kids,  recent graduates & old alumni smile, scream, cry & jump up and down like cheerleaders after a touchdown! (This includes myself). Everyone dresses the same, says the same things, talks the same, knows the same chants and cheers. You could tell an Auburn fan apart from anyone else in AZ! We have waited for so long for this moment! Our football team had made it to the top of college football! And we WON! Nothing could be better!

On my flight home I was reading out of Philippians & I began to reflect on the weekend. This thought came across my mind; “What if Jesus cam back today? Would you scream until your voice is gone, would you jump up and down, would you cry?”

To be completely honest with you, I could not answer the question in my mind! That is what I would say I would do, but immediately I had selfish thoughts: “There is so much more I want to accomplish, I want to be a dad, I want to travel there…etc.”

Is Auburn football more exciting and more important to me than Eternity?

Philippians 3:7-14 ” But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ.  What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ  and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ—the righteousness that comes from God on the basis of faith.  I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death,  and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead.  Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.  Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead,  I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”                                                                                    

The culture was evident as I looked at Auburn fans this weekend. What is the culture of Christians? Are we willing to give it ALL up?

This is what I am working on in 2011!

-Kyle

5 THINGS I LEARNED IN 2010

Posted: December 22, 2010 by kylejackson10 in CHRISTIAN, CRAZY LOVE, FCA LEE COUNTY, Uncategorized, YOUNG ADULTS

2010 has been a year full of work, family, church, friends, trips, football, conflict, love & did I mention…Work!

Looking back over the course of the year there were 5 things that really stood out to me as I reflected on what a great year it has been.

1.) MINISTRY IS EVERYWHERE: Working in the construction world can sometimes beat down on you. There were times where I just wanted to say, “Screw It” and walk away. Then I discovered a principle that has changed everything I do daily at work. “Know what your passion is and find out how to merge it with your daily work.” My passion is people. Selling construction supplies does not have me jumping out of bed every morning (No offence boss) but the people I work with and the customers I serve have had a tough couple of years due to the economy in SW FL. Now I look for any opportunity to build someone up I work for or work with. There have been countless conversations with superintendents, project managers and co-workers that have been the highlight of my week! Serving others is such a fulfillment. Ministry is Everywhere! 

2.) Change of Pace + Change of Place= Change of Perspective: In June, I went to Peru and hiked the Inca Trail to Machu Picchu. One of the most amazing experiences I have ever had. On the 2nd day of the hike (the hardest day of the 4) we were about 1/2 way to the top and one of the guys I was hiking with made this comment, “Don’t forget to look back to where we started!” I turned to look and I could see our base camp miles and miles away. In that moment I realized that sometimes we get so caught up in where we are headed that we forget to look at where we came from. It is OK to look back into the past. It shows you how far you have come. For me I realized how far I had come personally in the past 3 years. What a great moment in 2010!

3.) MARRIAGE REQUIRES DAILY WORK: Today is my 3rd anniversary with my beautiful wife, Jennifer Jackson. She is my best friend! That does not mean it is always easy, mostly because of me! One of the best things my wife and I have done since we have been married is taking a personality test and then getting as much information as possible about that personality. We also found how each others personality meshed with the others. We have learned how to handle conflict better and how tough conversations can be made a lot easier. There is a way to have healthy conflict! I would recommend anyone to read the book, “Make IT Amazing” by Scott Drummond. (www.makeitamazingbook.com) This book transformed the way Jen and I communicate daily! Our marriage is stronger than it has ever been!

4.) ACCOUNTABILITY IS ESSENTIAL: I meet with 3 of my best friends every Tuesday morning and we have a very intentional accountability group. The key word is “Intentional.” Our meetings are not a time to just sit and chat and joke around, we have other times we can do that. We meet and go through specific questions that we created after we sat down and “Backed the Truck Up,” or told each other everything about our pasts: Pains, Personal struggles, Ugly Moments, Temptations…etc. The Good, Bad and Ugly so to speak! This has allowed me to get things out of my heart (darkness) into the open (light) and wow does it take a load off your shoulders to know that others are dealing with the same junk! I am a better Husband, Son, Friend, Co-Worker, etc. because of this group. If you are interested in the questions we ask please email me at kjack210@gmail.com

5.) KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE CALL & THE SEND: We all feel “called” to do or be something in life. That is how God created us. The biggest thing I have learned on this in 2010 is, “Not all open doors are from God!” There have been some really tough decisions made over the past year concerning Mine and Jennifer’s future. There have been opportunities presented that some people have told me I was “crazy” for turning down. I know my calling is in the ministry and for lost people. I also know God has prepared a plan in advance for Jen and I. After prayer and some long conversations with my wife there was just not a peace in my heart about taking any of the opportunities presented. It was tough! I know what God has “Called” me to do, I am now patiently waiting for the “Send” moment where I have peace in my heart. The peace that passes all understanding!

And last but not least: IT IS GREAT TO BE AN AUBURN TIGER! #1 BABY!!!!!!!!!

2010 was an awesome year! I hope you take time to reflect on moments where God has taught you something that only he can!

Merry Christmas!

-Kyle