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One of the biggest things I have learned about being a leader is you WILL be criticized. Being criticized hurts but it is worth it! John Maxwell says, “When you get kicked in the rear, you know you are out front.”

Not everyone handles criticism the same. Some try to ignore it. Some try to defend themselves against it. Others, make witty and sarcastic remarks to put a critic in his place. The truth is, if you are a leader you WILL get criticized.

There are three things I have learned to use as a filter when being criticized:

1.) Who criticized me?– If it is coming from someone close to you or someone you admire or look up to then the criticism is worth looking into.

2.) How was the criticism given?- I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. You have to determine if the person was being judgmental or do they have real concern.

3.) Why was the criticism given?- Was it given out of personal hurt or for my benefit? When people are feeling hurt by you they will lash out and criticize you. Hurting people want to hurt other people.

Once I have used those filters during a moment of criticism I then work through what I was being criticized about. I try not to be defensive. I look for the grain of truth in the criticism. Then, I make changes if I need to.

I have learned that secure leaders never need to defend themselves. Even when the person who is criticizing is so far off from the truth. If you worry about what other people think about you it’s because you have more confidence in their opinion than you have in your own.

As I have learned this principle of “When you are getting kicked in the rear, you know you are out front” I think back to all the criticism I took early on as a leader. I use to respond to it with anger or sarcastic remarks. Now, I filter through the three things you read above. It is much easier to sleep at night when you filter through those principles.

When you are a leader you WILL be criticized! Know that it is worth it!

– Kyle

@KyleJackson1

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I have 2 friends that I played college baseball with that are making their way through Minor League baseball on the way to the Bigs. I had the opportunity to talk with both of them on the phone recently as they were finishing up Spring Training in AZ. and was blown away by some of the answers they gave me to some questions I was strategically asking about baseball but listening to their answers with a Ministry mindset.

Lance Zawadski (Triple-A for the Kansas City Royals) played several games for the Padres last season before being traded is a switch hitting SS/2B that is a phenomenal defensive player and hits for power from both sides of the plate. (http://mlb.mlb.com/team/player.jsp?player_id=453368#sectionType=career&statType=1&season=&gameType=’R’)

Brad Coon (Triple-A for the Los Angelis Dodgers) is in his 6th year of Minor League ball. He was with the Angels for 4 years, Nationals for 1 and now will start his 6th season with the Dodgers. He is a speedy left-handed center fielder that hits lead-off and steals 30-40 bases a year. Brad hit a walk-off HR last year in Spring Training in AZ for the Angels. (http://losangeles.angels.mlb.com/team/player.jsp?player_id=488795#sectionType=career&statType=1&season=&gameType=’R’)

Questions I asked Lance and Brad:

1.) What is the biggest difference between Minor League Baseball and Major League Baseball?

Amazingly they gave the exact same answer: “The biggest difference is in Minor League Baseball you can get away with certain weaknesses, but in the Majors, every weakness you have will be EXPLOITED and it will be exploited quick. In Minor League baseball only a few teams know your weakness, in the Majors EVERYONE knows your weaknesses!”

As a leader in ministry, the larger your ministry gets the more your weaknesses are going to be EXPLOITED! You can get away with some things in the Minors that only a few people know about, but in the Majors your weakness WILL be known and they WILL be exploited quickly!

2.) What is the difference in preparing for a Double-A game and a Major League Game?

Again, they gave the same answer: “You can show up at the park 3 hours before a minor league game and stretch, Take BP, throw and be successful. In the Majors you have to prepare daily! You have to do your reasearch on everything and chances are you still want have a “great” game! You have to be so mentally tough or you will get run over!”

As a leader in ministry, the more influence you have the more ready you have to be to answer questions, take the heat, be challenged by others and more. You can’t just show up at the park and half way prepare, you have to be prepared daily.

3.) What has been the toughest challenge for you after moving up to the Big Leagues?

Lance: “Learning the day-to-day routine of being a Major League player. It’s so different being in the spotlight. Everything you do or say people are ready to pounce on you! You have to be mentally tough.”

Brad: “Thinking I have to change who I am as a player after one bad at bat or one bad game. I think I have to change everything about my stance and swing after one bad day. I am a singles hitter, that steals bases and plays good defence. That’s what got me here. I don’t have to be something I’m not!”

WOW…Let both of those answers sink in a little! In the ministry sometimes you feel like people are just waiting for you to do or say the “wrong” thing. Everyone has their opinion of what you should do or who you should be. Be who you are and do what got you to the place you are in. Don’t be afraid to change, but always revert back to who you are at a heart level. Know who you are and what you do well and stick with it!

4.) What is the biggest misconception about Major League players?

Lance: “That people think that just because we are Big League players we slack off. The biggest surprise to me was watching from the dugout some of the best players in the game consistently running on and off the field hard and running out ground balls hard. People see what they want on TV and assume what they want from a distance. It is not always true.”

Brad: “That we are all the same! Cocky, Above the law, non-appreciative guys. So untrue. There are unhappy people everywhere in life no matter what you do! That does not mean everyone you work with or everyone in you profession is the same. But people believe what they want and make their own opinions about you without even knowing you.”

The more influence you gain, the more scrutiny you will take! People will  make their own opinions about you when they have never met you. They will watch from a distance and try to tear you down.

What Can We Do: 1.) Get accountable about your weaknesses so they will not get Exploited. 2.) Prepare Daily. 3.) Know who you are at a heart level. 4.) Don’t worry about the misconceptions about who you are.

AUBURN- 22            OREGON- 19

This past weekend I was fortunate to go to Glendale, AZ for the 2010 National Championship Game! I have waited 28 years for Auburn to be in the National Championship game! It was an incredible experience! Auburn brought 50-70 thousand fans, who paid anywhere from $500.00-$4,000 for a ticket! And that is just to the game!!!

For the 4 days I was there I watched the culture of Auburn. I watched the current students, little kids,  recent graduates & old alumni smile, scream, cry & jump up and down like cheerleaders after a touchdown! (This includes myself). Everyone dresses the same, says the same things, talks the same, knows the same chants and cheers. You could tell an Auburn fan apart from anyone else in AZ! We have waited for so long for this moment! Our football team had made it to the top of college football! And we WON! Nothing could be better!

On my flight home I was reading out of Philippians & I began to reflect on the weekend. This thought came across my mind; “What if Jesus cam back today? Would you scream until your voice is gone, would you jump up and down, would you cry?”

To be completely honest with you, I could not answer the question in my mind! That is what I would say I would do, but immediately I had selfish thoughts: “There is so much more I want to accomplish, I want to be a dad, I want to travel there…etc.”

Is Auburn football more exciting and more important to me than Eternity?

Philippians 3:7-14 ” But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ.  What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ  and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ—the righteousness that comes from God on the basis of faith.  I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death,  and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead.  Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.  Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead,  I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”                                                                                    

The culture was evident as I looked at Auburn fans this weekend. What is the culture of Christians? Are we willing to give it ALL up?

This is what I am working on in 2011!

-Kyle

5 THINGS I LEARNED IN 2010

Posted: December 22, 2010 by kylejackson10 in CHRISTIAN, CRAZY LOVE, FCA LEE COUNTY, Uncategorized, YOUNG ADULTS

2010 has been a year full of work, family, church, friends, trips, football, conflict, love & did I mention…Work!

Looking back over the course of the year there were 5 things that really stood out to me as I reflected on what a great year it has been.

1.) MINISTRY IS EVERYWHERE: Working in the construction world can sometimes beat down on you. There were times where I just wanted to say, “Screw It” and walk away. Then I discovered a principle that has changed everything I do daily at work. “Know what your passion is and find out how to merge it with your daily work.” My passion is people. Selling construction supplies does not have me jumping out of bed every morning (No offence boss) but the people I work with and the customers I serve have had a tough couple of years due to the economy in SW FL. Now I look for any opportunity to build someone up I work for or work with. There have been countless conversations with superintendents, project managers and co-workers that have been the highlight of my week! Serving others is such a fulfillment. Ministry is Everywhere! 

2.) Change of Pace + Change of Place= Change of Perspective: In June, I went to Peru and hiked the Inca Trail to Machu Picchu. One of the most amazing experiences I have ever had. On the 2nd day of the hike (the hardest day of the 4) we were about 1/2 way to the top and one of the guys I was hiking with made this comment, “Don’t forget to look back to where we started!” I turned to look and I could see our base camp miles and miles away. In that moment I realized that sometimes we get so caught up in where we are headed that we forget to look at where we came from. It is OK to look back into the past. It shows you how far you have come. For me I realized how far I had come personally in the past 3 years. What a great moment in 2010!

3.) MARRIAGE REQUIRES DAILY WORK: Today is my 3rd anniversary with my beautiful wife, Jennifer Jackson. She is my best friend! That does not mean it is always easy, mostly because of me! One of the best things my wife and I have done since we have been married is taking a personality test and then getting as much information as possible about that personality. We also found how each others personality meshed with the others. We have learned how to handle conflict better and how tough conversations can be made a lot easier. There is a way to have healthy conflict! I would recommend anyone to read the book, “Make IT Amazing” by Scott Drummond. (www.makeitamazingbook.com) This book transformed the way Jen and I communicate daily! Our marriage is stronger than it has ever been!

4.) ACCOUNTABILITY IS ESSENTIAL: I meet with 3 of my best friends every Tuesday morning and we have a very intentional accountability group. The key word is “Intentional.” Our meetings are not a time to just sit and chat and joke around, we have other times we can do that. We meet and go through specific questions that we created after we sat down and “Backed the Truck Up,” or told each other everything about our pasts: Pains, Personal struggles, Ugly Moments, Temptations…etc. The Good, Bad and Ugly so to speak! This has allowed me to get things out of my heart (darkness) into the open (light) and wow does it take a load off your shoulders to know that others are dealing with the same junk! I am a better Husband, Son, Friend, Co-Worker, etc. because of this group. If you are interested in the questions we ask please email me at kjack210@gmail.com

5.) KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE CALL & THE SEND: We all feel “called” to do or be something in life. That is how God created us. The biggest thing I have learned on this in 2010 is, “Not all open doors are from God!” There have been some really tough decisions made over the past year concerning Mine and Jennifer’s future. There have been opportunities presented that some people have told me I was “crazy” for turning down. I know my calling is in the ministry and for lost people. I also know God has prepared a plan in advance for Jen and I. After prayer and some long conversations with my wife there was just not a peace in my heart about taking any of the opportunities presented. It was tough! I know what God has “Called” me to do, I am now patiently waiting for the “Send” moment where I have peace in my heart. The peace that passes all understanding!

And last but not least: IT IS GREAT TO BE AN AUBURN TIGER! #1 BABY!!!!!!!!!

2010 was an awesome year! I hope you take time to reflect on moments where God has taught you something that only he can!

Merry Christmas!

-Kyle

Stick With It Or Chase Fantasies?

Posted: July 13, 2010 by kylejackson10 in CRAZY LOVE, FCA LEE COUNTY, Uncategorized

Proverbs 12:11 says, “The one who works his land will have plenty of food, but whoever chases fantasies lacks sense.” 

This is something that I have felt strongly to write about for a while now. At 27 years old I have already made a drastic career change from coaching college baseball to sales in construction. I am hoping soon I will have the opportunity to be in full-time ministry. So more than likely I will have made 3 career changes before I am 30 years old.

In 2006 I chased being a college coach. I worked hard! Recruiting, practices, scouting reports, field maintenance, player development…etc.

In September of 2008 through the present I have been chasing $ in the business world doing Sales. I work hard at it! Calling, appointments, quoting, re-pricing, arguing (its construction people)…etc.

But nothing satisfies me as much as the ministry does. Pouring into others and watching life change happen for them.

For 3 years I chased “fantasies” so to speak. Now I know what my “calling” is and I plan on “sticking with it!”

I wanted to write this because I see a trend in my generation, the 30 and younger crowd in the working world. (Sorry if you are over 30…you are not old, just older than most!!) I have friends in different states that I have watched jump from job to job for different reasons. $5,000 raise, better benefits, company car, cool office, etc. My generation chases the fantasy and as a result we have become the expert in nothing and are still looking for the next upgrade. We are not happy at work. Every little thing seems to get us frustrated and we are always on CareerBuilders.Com at work.

My generation wants the nice home, nice car, nice savings account and the best clothes but we want to work 1/2 as hard as the generation before us to get it.

Here are 3 steps to help from the above mentioned verse:

1.) What is your “Land” or What is your Calling? Because until you know that, no fantasy you chase will ever satisfy you enough.

2.) Once you know your calling, work as hard as you can to become the Expert in your field. It is hard to be the expert when you are learning a new trade every 10 months because you got  a $3,000 raise for your new job. Eventually you will become the expert and everyone will call you and you will make more $ than you will by taking small raises for 5 new careers over the next 5 years.

3.) Finally set goals within your calling and have a group that keeps you Accountable for those goals. There is no greater thing for our generation than accountability.

Go chase your calling, “Stick with It” and become the best you can be in whatever field you are in for God!

-Kyle

FCA BUZZ

Posted: April 15, 2010 by kylejackson10 in FCA LEE COUNTY

The last several weeks have been full of incredible stories from all around Lee County from students and coach’s about FCA. Cypress High School Huddle leader Rick Beckler is continuing to grow his FCA club. This past week there were 6  Cypress students from FCA that attended Collide (Next Level Church Youth Ministry) for the 1st time. Rick leads a small group on Wednesday nights at Collide. It was really cool to see him interact with the students outside the school. Will Hutcherson (Youth Pastor at Next Level) continues to pour into leaders at South Ft Myers HS. He is going into his 4th week of teaching leadership to some of the core student leaders at SFMHS.

This past week Devon McDonald, former Notre Dame team captain and Indianapolis Colts/Arizona Cardinal player came in town and teamed up with FCA to speak at over 12 events. Monday night Devon spoke at the All FCA event that takes place once a month at Studio G (McGregor Baptist Youth Center) to all Lee County FCA Huddles. There were several schools present (Ft Myers, S Ft Myers, Riverdale, SFCA, Naples, Cypress…) Coach Jimmy Roberts (Ft Myers HS) continues to lead a strong group of kids at Ft Myers High and continues to put events on like “Backstage” at Studio G where all schools can come together and team up to fulfil the vision on FCA!

Tuesday morning Devon spoke at Cypress High to their football team. 40+ players, 3 coach’s and 2 Vice-Principles filled the weight room to hear Devon present his story! Coach Thorton (Cypress Head football coach) has met with Jeff Leatherman (Youth Pastor at 1st Assembly) and Jeff is going to be Cypress football team’s “Character Coach.” After Devon spoke coach Thorton has created a Leadership Council of 8 players, 2 from each grade that he is allowing Jeff to meet with them once a week and go over basic leadership principles! The athletes loved it!

SFCA is on schedule to have their 2nd FCA meeting at the end of April. Jason Smith (Youth Pastor @ Safe Harbor) will be speaking and has agreed to be the huddle leader for the school.

ECS is on schedule to have their 1st FCA at the end of April. We are meeting with a group of students Friday 4/16 to discuss what FCA’s vision is and to train them on how to start their FCA!

Fort Myers HS is doing a phenomenal job with their FCA. They are having over 50 kids attending their FCA events! Dan Royal (Asst Basketball coach) has taken over the Camp ministry there and has several Ft Myers Athletes signed up for camps this summer!

Island Coast HS in Cape Coral is meeting with students leaders this week lock down a date for their 1st FCA. Kurt Thoreson (Asst Football Coach) & Halie Hurt (Cheerleading Coach) are going to be the FCA Huddle leaders for the school! last week at the school Kurt and I ran into the principle of the school, told him who I was and that I was with FCA, His response: “Man we have to get that started here! Kurt, you should be the sponsor!”

Wednesday I met with Josiah Ravish (1st Assembly Youth & College Praise and Worship Leader) and he wants to team up with FCA at North Ft Myers HS and be a team Chaplin. Josiah is an amazing guy! He has a heart for investing in students! I am really looking forward to seeing what he is going to do at North!

All that to say, God is moving in Lee County Schools! FCA is opening the door for powerful people, youth pastors in our town to be able to come into a public school and present the message of Jesus Christ to coach’s, students, athletes and administrators ! Thank you for believing in FCA and please continue to pray for this ministry!

-Kyle

FCA 3/16/10-3/26/10

Posted: March 26, 2010 by kylejackson10 in FCA LEE COUNTY

It was another amazing couple of weeks with FCA! Our annual FCA banquet at the Hyatt in Bonita Springs on 3/18 was a huge success! Tommy Bowden did an amazing job! There were over 45 students who showed up to volunteer for the event! We celebrated what God had done over the last year through the coach’s and athletes in SW Florida!

Earlier in the week we had an amazing meeting at Island Coast HS in Cape Coral. Kurt Thoreson, teacher and new asst. football coach gave me 1st class treatment by taking me around the school and introducing me to over 10 coach’s! We are looking to start a huddle there in April!

The week of 3/22 was amazing! Jon Pritikin, who has his own ministry called “feel the power” came and spoke all over SW Florida for FCA! Jeff Leatherman (1st Assembly Youth Pastor) was kind enough to let FCA use him in most of our schools! In Fort Myers Jon spoke at Cypress High School to their football team, coach’s and 2 administrators in the weight room at 7:30am! Jon does all kinds of amazing demonstrations using strength! (breaking bats, rolling up frying pans, bending metal bars in his mouth, blowing up hot water balloons, breaking blocks of ice…) The football team, coach’s and administrators loved him being there. Will Hutcherson (Youth Pastor at Next Level, Collide Ministry), Josh Homan (Children’s Pastor at Next Level) Ruben Loor (Middle School Next Level, Morph ministry), Dan Royal (FCA Board) & Jeff Leatherman (1st Assembly, Kaio Ministry) were all at Cypress to connect and support their players, coach’s and Administrators!!

Jon then spoke at Southwest Florida Christian Academy (SFCA) for their 1st FCA huddle group! Over 60 students came! Amazing # for their 1st meeting! Ben Fleming (Youth Pastor McGregor Baptist, Merge Ministry) put it all together! Jason Smith (Youth Pastor Safe Harbor) has jumped in as SFCA’s FCA Leader with Bill Catto, Athletic Director.

Monday morning I had a meeting with Larry Gritton, ECS Athletic Director about starting a FCA at the High School. Larry was all for it and we are looking to have our 1st meeting in April!

Monday night was the All FCA Backstage event hosted once a month at Studio G on Mcgregor’s Campus! Again Ben Fleming opens up their facility for all Lee County FCA’s to come together! There was dodgeball, basketball, pool, ping-pong, Pizza and great connection between Lee County athletes and coach’s! Jon opened up with some strength feats and Charlie Mitchell brought the message for over 100 students!

Ben just recently committed to being Ft Myers High School’s Team Chaplin for their football team!

Tuesday over at South Fort Myers High Will Hutcherson (NLC) teamed up with Coach Joe Hampton to teach leadership principles to his 4 leaders in FCA. Will is doing a 4 week session once a week at South on Leadership!

Wednesday 3/24 Rick Beckler and the Cypress High FCA through a Feeding FT Myers Party for all students after school! Rick had hotdogs, chips, drinks, games and giveaways for all students in attendence. Feeding Ft Myers is an event at Next Level where together all over town NLC is trying to raise over 15,000 cans for the soup kitchen in downtown Fort Myers! Kids from Cypress brought over 50 cans, enjoyed some games, food and give aways!

What an exciting 2 weeks for FCA! Our 1st FCA at SFCA. 2 new FCA’s starting in April at Island Coast and ECS! An amazing speaker in Jon Pritikin, and youth pastors from all over Ft Myers teaming up to serve the coach’s, connect with the athletes and Pray for Administrators at different Lee County Schools!

“You can do ALL things through Christ who gives you strength!” -Phillipians 4:13